It Is What It Is

I can’t help but think of that favorite saying of my sweet hubby – “It is what it is.”

We got a call yesterday from UW Madison that Tate’s spinal cord is indeed tethered and he needs surgery.

He is scheduled for surgery in Madison next Friday, October 9th, and will be hospitalized for four days if all goes as planned.

Sweet boy, your smile fills our days with so much joy!

I feel a little sick as I think about carrying Tate into that operating room and holding him until he is asleep – which is what I did with Eliza for her surgery last year.

It is definitely the most overwhelming thing I have ever done.

I am thankful that Blake saw the need for it to be me to have that honor.

And I know he will see the need for it to be me again – for those many same reasons that were there last year.

Here’s the thing about life with Jesus though.

He will meet us there.

In that operating room.

Right when we need Him – not before.

And I am going to rest in that as we prepare for next Friday.


  1. Tristan says:

    Drat, I was praying he wouldn’t need it Mason had his done at 2 , not fun. For us the keys were staying on top of painkillers the first three days. Also, they had him in a crib and he just wanted ME to snuggle and sleep with so we transferred him to a bed. Have them just go straight to the bed from surgery – transferring hurt.

    • Steph says:

      Tristan, thank you. I will definitely have them put Tate in a bed right away – that is such good advice! Last year we stayed on top of pain meds with Eliza and it was key!

  2. Connie says:

    Praying, praying, praying. May God give you peace and strength. Your sweet little man is in God’s hands, and you are right, He gives us the grace sufficient for the day. I pray you will feel all of us behind you holding you up before God.

  3. JoEllen says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with your family and with Tate. You are right that Jesus will be there through the whole surgery.

    Isn’t it a blessing when the husband can see the need for the wife to be there with the child. God gives them that instinct. Harry did the same for me with Lorelai and it was such a comfort to be there with them as they drift off to sleep knowing that they were not scared but in momma’s arms.

    I pray for strength, wisdom and knowledge as you all go. Please call upon us if you need help with the farm or the kids. We are here for you guys.

    Love and prayers my dear dear friend.

  4. Lucie says:

    Oh, no. All the experience with Eliza will be invaluable. On the other hand knowing very well what’s ahead of Tate, may make it that much harder emotionally. Stay strong.

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